In this blog post, I will walk you through 7 ways to incorporate daily self-love habits to maintain a peaceful life.
But first, let’s dive into the word, peace, and the origin of the peace symbol so that you can gain insight of my technique.
What does having peace mean?
Peace is defined as:
- freedom from disturbance; tranquility.
- a state or period in which there is no war or a war has ended.
Many of you will be shocked to learn that the peace symbol was created during the Campaign for Nuclear Disarmament.
Though there are many interpretations for the design, one summary of the design is this:
“A lot of people still don’t know what it really stands for: no nukes. Most simply believe it means ‘peace.’ But I think it’s important to know the true meaning, because the nuclear threat hasn’t gone away. It’s actually stronger than ever.”Ken Kolsbun, a peace symbol historian
The quote from Ken Kolsbun, to me, sums up what being in a peaceful state represents. It states that even in the face of threats, some sort of balance can still be maintained.
Maintaining peace is a conscious everyday effort. It involves steering clear of anything that may cause a disruption in the stability that I have gained through self discipline.
Peace equates to being in equilibrium, but it does not equate to the idea of a perfect life.
I look at peace as a moment to reflect on the duality of life.
Where there is calmness, there is also chaos. Where there is terror there is also fearlessness.
We can have peace in the midst of stormy weather. The conditions aren’t perfect, but it’s also not a death sentence.
We can appreciate the storm, reminding us to be STILL in the same way we can appreciate wars (disturbances) reminding us of how important it is to have Peace.
7 Daily Self-Love Habits for Peace & Bliss
So now that we know what peace means, let’s talk about BLISS and what that means!
To be in a state of bliss is to be in a state of perfect joy and happiness.
The secret to being in bliss starts with YOU, because you are the only person that controls your happiness and joy. We cannot control the state of the world. We can be at peace with certain circumstances that are beyond our control. But we can control the bliss that we attain.
The key to having bliss is self-care, self-love, self-respect, and pretty much anything that involves your self! Your bliss can be altered only if you allow people to alter it.
Self-love, self-acceptance, and confidence in my decision-making capabilities are key components of my peace-keeping strategy. Below, I will describe to you how I try to maintain peace and bliss through almost any circumstance.
1. Accept What IS.
Acceptance is a hard skill to master, because most will equate accepting what is as waving the white flag and surrendering.
Try looking at it in this way instead. Accepting what IS involves staying in the present and not worrying or becoming anxious about the future.
Accepting what IS involves releasing the grip just a little, realizing that by trying to CONTROL an outcome, you’re only creating resistance.
I have a realistic approach with life. I stay out of the fairy-tale mindset. I am clear that I control myself and myself only. Anything else outside of self is not within my control. I accept myself fully. I do not judge myself critically and I allow myself to be human. Therefore, I stand a better chance at extending this same acceptance outwardly.
2. Take care of yourself FIRST.
I connect with others once I have taken care of my own daily mental calming exercises, whether that is through meditation, affirmations, deep breathing, etc. I tend to self FIRST before any encounter on the phone or in person.
What this does is allow you to check in with your inner self to see where your state of mind is. Ask yourself if you have the mental capacity to take on another person’s drama, disturbance, or trouble. Sometimes we try to be heroes for others, but haven’t taken time to be a hero for our self first.
Just like the flight attendant will instruct you on a flight..
“Should the cabin lose pressure, oxygen masks will drop from the overhead area. Please place the mask over your own mouth and nose before assisting others.”
If you do not take care of yourself first, then who else will? As a mother, I am equipped to take care of my children, but if I’m not well, then I’m no good for them. Wellness begins with recognizing that YOU matter as well. It’s okay to be supermom or super-wife, but your engine cannot run on empty. You must take care of yourself first.
3. Stand your ground with Self-Love in Mind!
I do not allow others to bully me into connecting when I don’t feel up to it.
Mental health is important. Those moments when we feel like we want to be secluded from the world may be our spirit reminding us to be STILL, get some rest, and recharge.
Many of us are constantly on GO mode and don’t know when to stop. It’s okay to yield to your spirit and listen to the messages it may have for you. So when you are not feeling up to being around noise or chatter, do not allow others to bully you into their space. Take that time of seclusion for some self-love therapy.I am a huge advocate for this. When others nudge you to interact with them when you aren’t up to it, notice how your attitude shifts. Notice how you become ANGRY, because you let someone talk you into allowing them in your space when you didn’t feel like it. Instead of becoming angry, just say NO. No is a two letter word that has powerful results. It doesn’t require an elaborate explanation. It doesn’t require an apology. Stand your ground. Turn your phone off so you’re not disturbed when you’re not in the mood to interact. Claim your space and rest easy knowing that it is 100% okay to let others know when you are not up to connecting at a given moment. Any person that respects you will understand and will not try to force their way into your space.
4. Remain true to who you are.
I trust myself because I KNOW MYSELF…my AUTHENTIC self. I know what connections are desirable in order for me to continue living in a peaceful state and I am also fully aware of those that are disruptive to my peace..through experience.
I am fully aware that there are people who are comfortable with a daily mindset of bitterness, unhappiness, and discontentment. As stated previously, I control myself and only myself. So if a connection is only leading me to anger, sadness, depression, anxiety, extreme stress, or any other unpleasant emotion almost EVERY time that we connect, then that connection is a THREAT to my peace. That relationship is not worth the investment.
By staying true to my authentic self, I only aspire to be around people that add to my peace. The saying goes, Your Vibe attracts your Tribe. That’s where you will find authentic companionship…your kin.
Try not fight so hard to remain in connections that you have outgrown, connections that aren’t fitting for who you truly are, or connections that are toxic. This will only add to stress in your life. Keeping these connections alive for the sake of familiarity is emotional and mental self-harm.
5. Trust your Intuition.
Intuition is my go-to when I feel uncomfortable in any situation. The state of being uncomfortable is a sign for me that something is not in alignment…off…iffy.
My intuition is my safety, especially when the physical realm has no definitive clues at a given moment.
We always say, “I can’t put my finger on it, but…”
My dear, that’s your intuition speaking. Our intuitive powers kick in for survival in the face of danger. In the same way that birds fly south during the winter to escape the cold weather and survive in another climate, humans have the same instinct. Only we will sometimes ignore our instincts for money, stubbornness, or fear of change.
By trusting our intuition, we are able to navigate through unexpected shifts with more ease.
6. Be confident in your decisiveness.
Decisiveness is defined as the ability to make decisions quickly and effectively.
I always let my YES be YES and my NO be NO (as an elder once taught me) when it comes to decisionmaking. I have found that being in unsure mode allows room for manipulation.
Taking time to observe and waiting before making a conclusion (being neutral) is more beneficial than waiting in limbo. That rest period, as COVID-19 has shown me, gives room for people and circumstances to show up differently! You are able to have 20/20 vision.
No matter how much cloaking is done, our authentic reality will always make itself known. It is ultimately up to us to accept the truth surrounding a situation. Once we accept the truth, we are able to have confidence in the decisions we make.
If our peace equates to leaving a job or relationship that is causing extreme unhappiness, then we can begin to strategize a plan quickly and effectively to get back into a balanced state of mind.
7. Let go and LET IT FLOW!
After you have followed steps 1 to 6, you will be ready to let go of the things that aren’t beneficial to your mental health and magnetize to a space that is more fitting for you.
After I release, I truly release. I am familiar with the irksome emotions of disappointment, sadness, and unhappiness. And for me, it is very unloving to continue to put myself in environments that aren’t helping me to THRIVE.
Although the duality of life IS Thriving vs. Surviving, many of us don’t choose to thrive at all. Some of our lives look like The Survival Games year-round, because peace seems to unattainable. And that’s not true. You can actually choose peace, but you have to trust letting go of what you’re accustomed to and make a real attempt to gain balance in your life.
I hope these helpful tips benefit you as much as it has helped me!
Remember, your peace is your current..see? Your peace is your currency.
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Weekly Self-Care Checklist
Now that you have learned some daily tips of self-care, feel free to download this weekly self-care checklist!
An optimum time to do this self-care checklist would be when you are alone, your children are being taken care of by their father or someone else, and you have at least 2 hours to dedicate to pampering yourself and getting some quiet time.
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