Are you experiencing unconditional love from your partner? Or does your partner only love you based on conditions? Can you be your true authentic self with the one you proclaim to love? Or are you only ALLOWED to be yourself up to a certain threshold?
In a previous post, I described how unconditional love feels. So, here is another breakdown of what unconditional love feels like from my experience. Here are some things that I have learned are telltale signs of an unconditionally loving partner.
If I had to describe what love feels like, this song by Michael Jackson would be another perfect example. Pure love energy, in my reality, is like living each day as if it is an adventure…like I am sailing in an airplane to my favorite country every….single….day. Love does not feel like I am constrained or can only go so far before I am reminded of a ROLE that I am suppose to ACT out.
As I have always stated repetitively, love feels FREE. It is the purest energy that transcends our imagination. Love from an unconditionally loving partner SHOULD allow us to be ourselves and ONLY ourselves without any pretenses, expectations, or requirements. This is authentic love. And it is sometimes rare in our society that is over-saturated with conventional/orthodox methods of love.
Unconditional love is coupled with respect, right use of will, and allowing the other INDIVIDUAL to remain an INDIVIDUAL…to continue being who they came here to be without holding them hostage to our ideas of who they should be in order to be accepted.
Unconditional love exists when the people involved in the connection can be sovereign and exercise their RIGHT and CHOICE to share love with you. It does not look like a contract that DELEGATES love to keep a connection alive. Does this make sense?
How ironic is it that Michael Jackson describes the feeling he has with that special person he loves and adores as butterflies in his stomach.
Butterflies are symbolically synonymous with what?
- Renewal, rebirth
- Lightness of being, playfulness
- Elevation from earthly matters, tuning into emotional or spiritual
- The world of the soul, the psyche
A secondary meaning of the butterfly is about finding joy in life and lightness of being.
This is how you know when you are truly in tune with a person and experiencing love that is unalike anything you have ever experienced…which is unconditional love. It makes you feel LIBERATED. And that is the only love that is authentic on this planet. Everything else is CONTROL that is disguised as a “covering” or keeping someone in a “safe box” by projecting their own fears onto their partner. This conditional love feels more like possession.
Pure love does not come with rules and regulations and structured programs designed to keep individuals in roles. Love SHOULD ALWAYS feel FREE. And if it doesn’t, then it is most likely conditional love.
If you are in a conditionally loving relationship, then you have to decide that you are worthy AND you DESERVE the gift of being loved unconditionally. Begin by loving and accepting ALL of yourself. Remember….a person can only love you at the capacity that you love yourself. Once you have fully released all constraints or narrow beliefs surrounding the energy of love, an unconditionally loving partner WILL be magnetized to you. And it is up to YOU to accept that form of love freely without being afraid of its energy.
Unconditional love does not exist to keep you bound….it is not boastful or self-serving (scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours.) Unconditional love exists to help us all live freely. WHOMEVER you receive that connection with is totally up to you to decide. It’s your life. Make sure you are living it authentically. And most of all, make sure that you are GENUINELY happy with the partner(s) you choose.
“I hope you take from this that it’ll make you no less of a man
To break your walls and simply grab my hand
Love shouldn’t be contraband
It shouldn’t treble on your confidence
Shouldn’t be seen as less than compliments”-Kehlani “Butterflies”