“Turn a boy into a good man
Make a queen feel like a princess
One kiss at the perfect moment
Bruises start to heal”
-Robin Thicke, “That’s What Love Can Do”
Something happened to me the other day when I heard this song above while cruising in my vehicle. I automatically knew it was Robin Thicke because of his signature melodic and smooth voice. But, it was something about this rhythm that made my soul twinkle. I couldn’t get enough of it!
I was disappointed when the song slowly started to mellow out. I wanted them to play it a little while longer on the radio, because I connected with this familiar energy. It was the first thing I thought about when I awakened the next day. Upon listening to the first note, my spirit felt so overjoyed and elated! And it was to the point I had to put this song on repeat, bathe in its energy, AND WRITE THIS POST!!
What this melody really symbolized to me is the love that I wish every person on this planet could experience. Sometimes, I look out into my environment and my inner eye witnesses a lot of troubled spirits lost behind their own skin. After journeying through my own deep healing, I have re-cultivated the ability to recognize pain behind others’ eyes. I can see all the hidden abrasions that people carry. It’s so strong at times. I wish I could just carry innumerable blankets of unconditional love and wrap it around those who have pressed the standstill button on their evolution due to traumas, insecurities, abuse, neglect, etc.
In a previous post, I described my acronym for hurt.
I have found that many of us cannot genuinely muster up the strength to love others unconditionally, because we have not mastered this skill with self first. Some of us have grown on the surface…our bodies have stretched out…we appear GROWN, but inside of these bodies are battered children. It’s as if I can see the inner child curled into a fetal position still experiencing rejection, neglect, physical and emotional abuse, and every other hurtful thing from conditional individuals in their environment and from their own self, even. That inner child cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel and feels as if there is no hope. It is looking to be saved, but often times pushes away unconditional love that comes to lend a helping hand, because the energy feels foreign.
Some of us attract more hurt to ourselves from a space of internal suffering and familiarity with pain…it’s the only thing that feels “right.”
Adults, as well as children, may develop strong emotional ties with people who intermittently harass, beat, and threaten them. The persistence of these attachment bonds leads to confusion of pain and love.
– National Library of Medicine
But, when you decide to love yourself unconditionally and peel off any layer of material that is contrary to this unconditional love energy, you will see your scars beginning to heal PERMANENTLY. And you will in return attract unconditionally loving acquaintances to you. AND you will begin to see just how natural it will be for you to extend love from your open/properly-functioning heart space to others without any expectations or inward agendas.
We always hear “love heals all” or “love always wins.” But for those who have only experienced conditional love with restrictions, ultimatums, guidelines, expectations, “be this so I can show you love or else..” maybe the phrase, “love heals all” does not make sense. Well, let’s look at what healing actually means to get an idea of what type of LOVE initiates healing.
- to make free from injury or disease : to make SOUND or whole.
- to make well again : to RESTORE to health.
- to cause (an undesirable condition) to be overcome.
- to restore to original purity or integrity.
- prosperity, happiness, welfare; preservation, safety.
- being SOUND.
I have a sneaky suspicion that the love spoken of in this phrase is the frequency of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. From experience, it is the ONLY love that has unfailing results. IT is the ONLY love that WINS. It is the only love that feels pleasing to the soul. It is the ONLY love that touches our core and bring us to restoration of our authentic self. This “purity” that is spoken of is not pious. It is in the most simplest way a description of how we were as children…unadulterated and free from the contamination of others’ fears, traumas, be-LIE-fs, and ideas of disunion. This melody by Robin Thicke is a representation of that unconditional love frequency. It’s soft, nurturing, gentle, easy-going, paciente…, non-disruptive, harmonizing…
Unconditional love is like an inaudible frequency that can only be felt through our souls. It resonates with a person and helps them to feel secure, WHOLE, balanced, and overall in good health (mentally, physically, spiritually). Notice that a synonym of being healthy is BEING SOUND! I know you’re probably thinking about being of “sound mind.” But, let’s just say this is equivalent to actually embodying sound, or a frequency of ONENESS. Let’s just say being sound or healthy means to resonate in an unfading energy of unconditional love.
Sound means in good condition; not damaged, injured, or diseased.
In essence, sound is flawless and intuitively fine-tuned! Right?! Sound…unconditional love..”keeps no record of wrongs”…it is perfect as is….it needs no instructions…it just flows. When an artist produces their best musical work, they do not look to seek approval from A&Rs or external influences. They produce the melody that they innately sense is truth…they are in unison with the SOUND. Sound is truth….unconditional love is truth…unconditional love is perfect and true!
And so as listeners, when we feel it, we just KNOW that it is the IT that we need and desire. When we are in this space of unconditional love, we do not have TIME or SPACE to reflect on offenses or hurt. When we are in this energy, time does not even exist! We are only focused on that deep resonance of pure LOVE energy.
We know that it is common for us to play happy music (sounds) to put us in a good mood or to put as at ease. It turns out there are actually studies that support sound is used to heal.
“Using sound in these ways, it is possible to make profound changes in brainwave patterns and states of consciousness, observable on brainwave mapping equipment (EEG), as well as positive changes in the body, measurable with blood tests, bio-feedback equipment and other sophisticated procedures. We are also able to influence the core balance and functioning of the brain and central nervous system as a whole.”
-Dr. Jeffrey Thompson (Neuroacoustics: The Healing Power of Sound)
The correlation of sound healing and “unconditional love healing” rests in the studies that have also proven that being in love helps to relieve stress. An embrace can help to keep tension away. That is…a hug from someone whose heart is vibrating on an energy of freely sharing their love. Not one of those side unfamiliar, non-trusting hugs…no..a strong loving embrace. The love and bonding hormone, oxytocin, helps to decrease inflammation in the body and improves your immune system! Oxytocin is naturally produced in our hypothalamus and is equivalent to 30 mg of the prescription oxycodone or morphine! So I guess you could say that LOVE should help to ease pain! I think it can be even more potent and beneficial when you already LOVE yourself unconditionally and the love from an unconditionally loving partner is an extra-added DOSE of pleasure!!
I guess Charlie Wilson really did know what he was saying when he sang the words, “Being in love is good for your health.” Being in the energy of unconditional love helps our soul to dance and vibrate on a frequency of nonrestrictive oneness with EVERYTHING..
The love that HEALS is not aggressive, forceful, possessive, jealous, envious, unbearable, obligatory, exhausting, and does not include punishment. These are all ill-fruits of CONDITIONAL love and it makes us harbor emotions of guilt, frustration, anger…it makes us feel low, unworthy, undeserving, undesirable, controlled, fearful, etc. It keeps us in a state of disconnection with ourselves and with others. Unconditional love, on the other hand, feels FREE…it’s liberating and it’s not a temporary euphoria. It’s infinite. And you will only discover it once you have made the choice to love and accept all of yourself.
The saying is “Hurt people hurt people.” What would our world look like if we each made the conscious choice to heal and break the perpetual cycle of hatred of ourselves, which leads to hatred of others?
I always say, What would our world look like if healed, unconditionally loving people loved other healed, unconditionally loving people? And I think this song, “That’s What Love Can Do,” helped me to answer my own question. It’s verification that unconditional love can not only heal our own hurts, but it can help to heal others as well. And it can most definitely help to restore the earth body. Let’s get back to love!